So my husband and I are coming up on our one year anniversary, that was really quick! December 17 is our one year anniversary being married to each other and it has been one lovely roller coaster ride. We don't have the luxury like a lot of the people I know to have courted for a long time. We did court and that was fun although being secretive about it felt childish. So I won't mention a lot about courting except that it is important and don't go backwards! Court first to see if you're both compatible. Alsot that's the time to see attitudes, morals and all the important foundational things in a relationship not a marriage but a relationship. Sex is important but when push comes to shove sex will not bind a marriage together don't forget that- too many people try to use that as a binder but it doesn't work I've seen it too often in other relationships and marriages. Don't go there!
Our hectic schedules prevent some much needed QT aka quality time but I highly suggest it. I sneak it into our even rash times. My husband is one of those people who works from sun up to sun down and I have to remind him at times hello there fella you have a home to get to and a wife. He always giggles and says he's on his way home. Dinner is always ready for him when he comes home and his chilled juice. His bed is made and clothes are laid out and no that's not going over board part of it is I've learned what he likes and I do them. He doesn't ask for it but I know it makes him feel special and like man of his home. Which he should, if a man walks into a house and feels like an alien than something's wrong. When I was single there was a time in the church I come from the Pentecostals of Maui had to go through a whole series of marriage lessons and I thank God for them because a lot of them have been put into practice in my marriage so far Getting my husband to learn is another story but I can guarantee anyone who goes through that teaching series that Pastor Bailey taught will have a little bit of heads up on what to do and what to expect. I am so thankful for that teaching!!!!! In effort to squeeze in QT we'll buy a little something to eat and sit at the beach and talk, go and play tennis together before he gets together with the guys, set up a quick lunch date before we have to run off to something. If we don't have a relationship with Christ how do we call ourselves Christians? I've realized it's the same in comparison to a marriage how can you even say you're married if you don't have a relationship. Today I notice that a lot of people who were married say yeah I was married but yet know nothing about their spouse. No relationship... my husband and I try to keep a tight relationship and we have sessions where we pray together as well. A family that prays together stays together! Relationship is very important for the survival of any relationship. Manu and I on the grander scale of things see things the same but in details we see things differently and it doesn't make either of us wrong. It's like We know where Walmart is but there are so many ways to get there and no one way is wrong. Perhaps if you want to be there in a certain time frame you may want to pay attention to the details but the idea is to get there! Another lesson I learned from my Pastor you can't see what's coming up on the road on your way to your destination. Same with marriage you can't see ahead so prepare early on... I don't agree with some of the things my husband does but I've learned that is where educating comes in on both parts. We can differ in opinions that is what makes us.. US. So my for my title QT very important for any marriage it isn't just sitting and watching t.v. together it's doing something that will have you both interacting with each other. Some suggestions are going for a walk in the mall chatting about whatever, lunch dates are fun, playing a sport together, going to a show or dining experience together. I live in Hawaii and there are many things we could try! Ziplining, parasailing, luaus, shows or even just kicking back at the beach and talking. It's a together deal not a one sided thing. That is where the relationship comes in you learn each other and school each other. If you think you know it all about your partner you are mistaken there's always something new to learn. QT it's important for my husband and I it is important - we do dorky things but it makes us laugh and enjoy and that is what makes all the difference. A QT relationship with the Lord is vital to all marriages. It will help you bear when you think you cannot. A QT relationship with your spouse is vital as it brings pleasure and satisfaction to your marriage.
